#701 Avoiding Toxic Relationships with special guest Mark Berzins Best Of from July 2015

The Staying Young Show

 

Show Topic: Avoiding Toxic Relationships with special guest Mark Berzins

Co-Hosts: Dr. Gaman, Judy Gaman, Mark Anderson

Guest: Mark Berzins, the author of MOST GUYS ARE LOSERS (And How To Find a Winner): Dating Wit & Wisdom From Your Dad.

Segment 1

 

This is going to be such a fun show and one that most of you can totally relate to. We are talking about the importance of dating and marrying the right person. Being in a healthy relationship is a great way to positively improve your health. On the contrary, being in a bad relationship can destroy your health.

• (Connect) How grateful we are to be in a positive relationship and what makes it so great
• Docs – explain ways that spouses can harm one another (negative talk, bad habits rubbing off (like eating, sedentary lifestyle), stress
• Why we need to talk to our children and grandchildren about how to attract and keep the right kind of partner
• (Inspire) If you are in a less than healthy relationship – ways to improve it.

MUSIC FOR DOC SHOCK 

Doc Shock of the day 

Not shocking at all, but still a great study. This was out of my alma mater, George Washington University. The found that a correlation between borderline testosterone levels in men and depression. In the study, there was a 56% correlation. The recommendation is that that men who present with borderline testosterone levels should be screened for depression and obesity. I believe the same is true of the opposite – if men present with obesity and depression, they need to be screened for testosterone deficiency. Ironically, a high percentage of the study subjects were also taking anti-depressants. Did they need them? Or did they simply need bio-identical hormone replacement therapy?

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/07/150701123657.htm

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Segment 2

 

About tease – coming up – Mark Berzins, the author of MOST GUYS ARE LOSERS (And How To Find a Winner): Dating Wit & Wisdom From Your Dad. This is going to be such a great guest – super excited to have him on with us!

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Welcome

Mark Berzins, the author of MOST GUYS ARE LOSERS (And How To Find a Winner): Dating Wit & Wisdom From Your Dad.

Discuss

• Why you wrote this book – sounds like something a girl would write
• The Abuser: he may be charming, handsome, and appear loving and normal. But there is something wrong in his wiring that causes him to switch personalities.

Bottom Line: If he hurts you, break it off. No second chances. No apologies accepted.

• The Cheater shows his colors early and often in a relationship. He can’t keep himself from straying and is weak-willed. If your man says, “I couldn’t help myself,” Berzins counters “that’s a load of crap.”

Bottom Line: Cheating should always be deemed a permanent character flaw. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

• Jealous & Possessive Guy: A red flag is the perpetual ‘I love you’ You can’t ever leave his sight without constant reassurance that you love him. His underlying fear is that you will leave him.

Bottom Line: The jealous guy can be dangerous, so firmly explain to him that you no longer love him. If he continues to pursue you, get a restraining order

• The Selfish Guy: Many selfish guys end up being career singles. It is the reason they never settle down. You will always be #2 in his life to going out with these guys, going to the gym, the ballgame. This guy is always doing something and will call you selfish if you ask him to spend time with you.

Bottom Line: Do you really want to have a boyfriend who makes you feel like going out with you is causing him to make a sacrifice? That’s garbage. Selfishness is just another form of addiction that can be overcome with discipline and self-control.

• OPEN DISCUSSION ABOUT THE FEMALE VERSIONS OF THESE (and more)

SHOUT OUT TO MILITARY, Facebook (stay young media group) , download podcasts – coming up - let’s see how good you are that the relationship test as we do a true and false test. Stay tuned!

Segment 3

Tease the upcoming Dementia Defender 844-WELL100

 Back on with Mark Berzins, the author of MOST GUYS ARE LOSERS (And How To Find a Winner): Dating Wit & Wisdom From Your Dad

Discuss

True and false test

A good man is hard to find. 

Good things come to those who wait.

Breaking up is hard to do. 

You should love your boyfriend unconditionally.

Men have one-track minds.

Everyone deserves a second chance.

Actions speak louder than words.

Why buy the cow if the milk is free?

Father knows best.

Play hard to get.

Familiarity breeds contempt.

Past results are not indicative of future performance.

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

There’s no better time than the present.

Let me make it up to you.

Birds of a feather flock together.

The Devil make me do it.

Men have needs.

Your man has the right to expect reciprocity.

Judy tease DD – grab a pen! 844-well100. Podcasts itunes, stayyoungamerica.com 

Coming up Medical Mania Trivia and then at the end of the show - Dementia Defender Riddle of the day – your chance to win a free copy of the book Age to Perfection

Segment 4

 

Judy Announcement tease DD 844-Well100 

MEDICAL TRIVIA - Anjali Bhimani (tv star) In addition to theater, you may know her from roles she has played on Modern Family, Bones, Necessary Roughness, Outsourced, and All My Children 

– tell her what she can win Resveratrol from stayyoungvitamins.com and lifeline from stayyoungskin.com

1.) Which are you more likely to be killed by, a campaign cork or a poisonous spider?

A. Cork

2.) True of False. Humans have more facial muscles than any of the animals on earth?

A. True – there are 22 on each side

3.) True of False. Right handed people live longer than left handed people

A. True

4.) Multiple Choice. The length of your foot is the same as: The distance between your wrist and your elbow or the length of your c-spine (the bones in your neck)

A. Wrist and elbow

Dementia Defender 

Judy: tease out 

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